Being surrounded by cheesy greeting cards, romantic red roses, and heart-shaped candy on Valentine’s Day can be devastating if you’ve recently ended a marriage. February 14th can be an isolating and depressing day for a recent divorcee.
The key is to re-frame Valentine’s Day and focus on yourself instead of your divorce. Here are a few ways you can face this Hallmark holiday head-on and survive the day.
Connect with friends
If you don’t have a partner to spend Valentine’s Day with, that’s okay – focus on friendships instead of romantic relationships. Hang out with other single friends, reconnect with old friends, or get a big group together for drinks or a game night.
Avoid glamorizing relationships & marriage
Remember: There’s a reason why you and your spouse separated. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Relationships can be great, but they require hard work and dedication. Instead of daydreaming about your past relationship, celebrate all the perks of being single.
Stay off social media
If you’re a social media junkie, it’s probably best to refrain from opening Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter this Valentine’s Day. Exposing yourself to others’ photos and posts about love and relationships might bring you down. Consider deleting these apps temporarily so that you can focus on you. A social media detox might be just what you need to lift your spirits.
Celebrate the day with your family
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to just be about romantic love – what about familial love? If you have kids, spend the day making valentines and eating candy with them. Take your parents out to dinner. Spend the day with your family instead of dwelling on dating.
There’s nothing wrong with spoiling yourself – everyone deserves a pick-me-up from time to time. Spend Valentine’s Day treating yourself to something luxurious, whether it’s a massage, a spa day, or a shopping trip. A little self-care can make all the difference in your outlook on life.
Start and finish a project
There’s nothing like a big project, some hard work, and a final result to distract you from the negative feelings you might have on Valentine’s Day. Brainstorm a big (yet manageable) project you can work on and complete in one day. Maybe you’ve been meaning to paint a room in your house or build that piece of Ikea furniture you bought weeks ago. Whatever it is, you’ll feel a sense of pride and accomplishment once it’s done.
Choose the Right Legal Representation
If you are in the midst of a divorce or are considering filing for divorce, you deserve the compassionate counsel we offer at Hembree Bell Law Firm, PLLC. Our divorce lawyers in Austin are here to help you through the process every step of the way.
Call us at (512) 768-9737 or contact us online to set up an initial consultation.