Dating After Divorce
Dating after a divorce can feel like a journey into unchartered territory. You may have been out of the dating game for decades only to find yourself single, ready to mingle, and confused as to how it all works. And are you fully ready to move on and start dating in the first place? Today, we go over when and how to start dating again post-divorce.
How to Know When to Date Again Post-Divorce
It is not a good move to date while you are getting divorced. Your dating history could be used against you in court and your soon-to-be ex-spouse certainly will not like this news. Additionally, you are probably not ready to date yet. It takes time to process a divorce.
You should not just begin dating right away without giving yourself that time to move through your emotions in a healthy manner. You know yourself best and will understand when it is time to date again.
How Long Should You Wait to Date After Divorce?
Listen to yourself and schedule therapy sessions if you would like additional help, guidance, and support. According to relationship therapists, while there is no set rule on when to go back to dating again, it is best to take several months to even a year off from dating to process the loss of your marriage.
Understanding Dating Apps
Chances are the dating landscape has changed since you got married. More people are now meeting on dating apps instead of in real life.
While meeting someone on an app may feel strange at first, it is also an easier way to meet people you would want to date. Most people are upfront on a dating app and will share their values, hobbies, career, and whether they are looking for a relationship or not.
There are many dating apps out there, including Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, which require you to set up a profile with photographs and a description of yourself. You may also answer prompts to show off your unique personality.
Once your profile is complete, you can then start scrolling through other profiles and swipe right when you like one. If that person then swipes right back on you, you have a match, and then you two can chat. Bumble is a bit different as the women on the app get to start the conversation first, so you must wait for them to initiate a message.
Meet Potential Dates in Real Life
While you can ask someone out on a date on an app, you can also do so in real life. If you are unfamiliar with the online dating scene, start going to new places, and interacting with people you find attractive. It is much easier to determine if you have chemistry with someone by speaking with them in person first, so go for it.
What do you have to lose? Even if someone turns you down for a date, that does not mean you are “un-dateable.” If anything, that individual was probably flattered you asked. Practice using your confidence muscle by asking people out in person. Dating can be fun and exhilarating, so try it out.
Dating does not need to be scary or overwhelming. In fact, it can be a form of self-expression! If you find yourself “new” to dating again, consider it a gift.
Dating is a great way to:
- Meet new people
- Try new activities
- Discover new, local artists
- See new parts of your city
- Get to know yourself even better
Have fun and remember that you deserve to feel good and date to your heart’s content.