Family Law Musing: When Not To Get Divorced

People often come to us trying to figure out when the best time is to get divorced:

-Do they wait until summer?

-Do they file after the first of the year?

-Do they wait until their spouse gets that big raise? ...the list goes on.

Though there is no “right” answer to these questions - but there is a wrong one. The worst time to get divorced is when you are at the absolute end of your rope. When you’re desperate...exhausted...depleted...spent.* And I get it. There comes a point where you can’t take it anymore and are just “done”. But the divorce or custody process is tough stuff. It’s not peaceful or easy or smooth. Waiting until you are completely out of emotional reserves sets you up for a rocky path. So, if you’re at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. Get stable, get some rest, and make a plan. Don’t make life-altering decisions from a place of desperation. You won’t be happy with that choice, and your ex-factor will likely take advantage of you in your moment of weakness. So hold on, get help if you need it, and do this when you can breathe and think clearly-ish. Better yet - don’t let yourself get to that spot in the first place. But, if you’re there - you got this. Hang on. Clearer days are coming.