Family Law Pro-Tip | You Get More Flies with Honey

Since we were kids, some well-meaning, wise adult warned us: “You get more flies with honey than with vinegar.” Though I’m not quite sure why anyone would want more flies 🤷‍♀️, this concept has served me well in life and in the family law arena. It will do the same for you, if you let it. This is one that’s a lot easier to say than to do. You’re divorcing this person and often the urge to correct them, set the record straight, wound them as they’ve wounded you, etc. is overwhelming. But you’ve got to be smarter - play the long game. If you’re headed to mediation or trying to broker a deal, your ex-factor’s willingness to sign on the dotted line often depends on how mad they are at you at any given moment. Don’t add fuel to the fire. Be nice (ish). Use honey instead of vinegar and remove added aggression from its seat at the bargaining table. You can go back to vinegar once it’s over, if you please - though I don’t recommend. Being nice also lets you sleep at night.