Family Law Pro-Tip | You're Not A Four Corners Family Anymore

Y’all—this Pro-Tip is thorny but also some of the most important advice we can give people going through a divorce. When you were married, you were what I call a “four corners family”. Your kids only knew one reality, one world, one point of view. But your divorce will shatter that glass house, and the kids will be exposed to options and choices and competing interests way too soon. This is the “cost of leaving” part I talked about before—the really messy part—the loss of their innocence. And, it’s hard. Keep you up at night hard. There’s no other way to say it. Today’s pro-tip walks you through how to navigate your loss of (perceived) control and the shifting perspectives of your children. We talk about letting go of the idea that you’re the authoritarian over your kids’ lives because they now have two homes: two realities, two worlds, two points of view. Ideally you and your ex-factor can eventually merge those two worlds and build a new family like Humpty Dumpty. For some of us, that’s not an option. So listen to me, because I’m right on this. Accept that you cannot control what happens at the other house. If your kids are safe, what they do over there is not your business. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you’ll move past the pain and into the freedom. It’s so much better on the other side, but it’s a rough road for a while. Anyone who tells you different is selling something. Not over or under, only through. You can do it. Promise.